I am feeling very lonely and I’m not sure how to get out of this horrible circle I’m in. I have been lonely for the last 2 years. I broke up with my ex 5 years ago now and I am finally ready to date (as of August 2015) and I’m realizing how lonely I really am.
I thought about joining a sorority because my sister is in Kappa Alpha Theta and she has tons of friends because of it. I’m kind of jealous of that because I don’t have any friends. I work a lot to keep myself from thinking about how lonely I am. I don’t know how to make friends.
I’m currently a Senior at Uni but I’m staying in school after I finish this Education degree to go back to get an Information Technology degree. Right now I’m taking 1 class online and this summer (2nd week of May) I’m going to start taking 2 classes at my university.
I work at the Uni in question and I have met tons of awesome people around my age but I don’t see any of them as my friends. Idk if it is because of an invisible wall I built or what.
The horrible circle goes as follows:
- Realize I’m lonely.
- Complain to my friends/family and then not listen to what they say. Give excuses to what they say. [one of my friends just told me off for this and I hate that I do this but I just do it]
- Start doing something about it like joining Meetup.com or thinking about joining a sorority and actually start the process
- Stop doing it for whatever reason. I become happy with my life or at least content. I get introverted (I am an introvert by nature) and don’t want to see people or realize that a sorority is expensive ($700 for the first semester here and it goes down every semester after that but $700 for deadlines and to hang out with people is a lot, in my opinion).
So now you see what I am dealing with. Idk why I can’t break this circle. I’m looking for any advice you guys can come up with. I promise I won’t make excuses. I’m actually going to try and listen.
I’ve tried looking for clubs but there aren’t any clubs that I am specifically interested in. I’m not sure I would be good at starting my own club because of how introverted I am. I believe you would need to be an extrovert to get people to join and what not.
I’m interested in computers, mostly, but pokemon and yugioh as well as anything to do with technology. Right now I’m wanting to cell phones at T-Mobile after I finish my degree and move up the ladder in the T-Mobile corporation because I love what they are doing and everything. The closest “club” I could find relating to my interests is where I work at my Uni.
I also love playing Soccer and Basketball. I tried playing soccer this spring but I just started my new job on campus right as the new season was starting and the hours overlapped with the soccer season. I’m going to try Basketball in the fall as well as Soccer and I’m going back to class full time in the fall but for the time being I want to make friends and stop feeling so sorry for myself.
I wanted to post this because it helped me when I posted it on Reddit but only 1 person replied to the post and he is now my friend on Kik. 🙂 But I am still feeling a void so I want to see what you guys think I should do.